Stop Jumping On The Government Hate Train

If there's one thing I've noticed during this time of the year is the general hate people have for the government.Instead of celebrating the achievement of 53 years of independence,many are instead directing their concentration towards reliving racial sentiments.I'll be frank here:this group is predominantly made up of my fellow Chinese and Indians,in the age range of secondary school to 30-something adults.

The question is:why?Here are some typical answers.

1. The government is corrupt.
   
   
2. The government is racist.
   
   
3. Therefore,I have no future in this country and will migrate if given the chance.

But when you ask for evidence,they find it difficult to find any.Even if they did,it would be something they speed read through in the papers or a passing sentence that came up over a meal.

Nowadays,it is considered "cool" to hate the government.If you don't,you are weird,a government hugger and are "wrong".Therefore,the rising popularity of Namewee's videos and anything Raja Petra Kamarudin or his entourage writes.

In my opinion,all this hate is borne out of generalisation,which can be broken down into upbringing,and the view of the government as a single entity instead of as a collective.

On the point of upbringing,we have been taught since young to discriminate.In fact,disliking Malays is a very "Chinese" thing to do.The stereotype of Malays being lazy,stupid and reliant on the government for handouts is created by our forefathers.Having come to a new land all the way from the Orient,they play the unfamiliar immigrant.Therefore,they base their views on the locals on their encounters with them.Somehow or the other unfortunately,a few bad apples rubbed our ancestors the wrong way,and these bad experiences are taken to describe the locals.I have been taught this by my grandmother,who revealed to me how my grandfather kept a Malay mistress and she cheated him of his money and disallowed my family from visiting his grave.

"You can marry anybody,but not Malays."she said to me.

"Okay."I replied.I was 10 years old.

I sorta broke this promise when I had a puberty-induced crush on a Malay chick when I hit 13.I refused to eat pork,and I was immediately the outcast during family dinners.Thank god it did not last long.Pork is the meat of kings.

On my second point,the rakyat tend to focus more on the faults on the government rather than the achievements.This can partly be blamed on the mass media."Boring,old" news relating to Parliament get compressed into Page 2."Scandals!Sex tapes!Bribery!" get the front page and Page 3,which lies on the right when we open the paper.We always look at the page on the right first before turning our gaze to the left.

If a BN man is being indicted for corruption,we do not curse his name.We curse the government,because that is who he works for.His crime now becomes the government's crime,eventhough the latter had nothing to do with it.Take for example,Bung Mokhtar.He is arguably the worst MP ever.He made sexist remarks,not once but twice and married another woman illegally.All of a sudden,the public assumes every member of UMNO and BN is sexist and unfaithful.

My point is,for every Bung Mokhtar we have in government,there is a Khairy Jamaluddin.The latter is smart,rational,a proponent of social media(he subtly made fun of Information Minister Rais when the geezer said that Twitter and Facebook are the poisonous propaganda of the West) and is sincere in giving youths a voice(he set up BN Youth Lab early this year).

Stop seeing the government as a single entity,because you are undermining the work of the many other good men and women in Parliament as well.

This is in no way an endorsement of the Malaysian government.I am not a big fan of them either.However,please be able to separate truth from lie.Not everything the Opposition says is true either.If you are gonna hate,please back it up with solid points and reasons instead of plain old anecdotes from "victims".

Oh yeah,fuck you,Bung Mokhtar.

My Name is NOT Sliver Ang.

On countless occasions I have received FB messages, SMSes, emails, and written letters addressing me by the name of "Sliver". I will understand if it's a one-off typo error. But repeated SMSes going "Hi Sliver....." is just plain annoying. It's not like, a very cheem Ang Mor mia you know? Not "Knox" or "Marcheline" or "Brochovich" or "L'vr" (I never knew how to say that shop's name). Just another normal English word, one which is not only existent in English, but which people spent time in Chemistry lessons on as well. S-I-L-V-E-R. Very hard meh? Must make me sound like "saliva" or something. Or like some sliver of hope crap. Call me "Ag" or "925" I also won't be so du lan.

P/s. Oh by the way, call me Hi Ho Silver and I'll slap your face. I kept hearing crew calling me "Hi Ho" when I was in the airline. Almost EVERY. OTHER. FLIGHT. NEVER heard before prior to flying. Turned out it was the name of this horse who starred in this show back in the 70s or 80s or something. One tactless IFS (think his name was Kenny or K-something la, see I didn't even bother remembering his name after that) even joked that I should speak to my parents about naming me after a horse. Then laughed to himself. By now the whole briefing room can sense that I buay song already, only his antennae spoilt. (Too used to being tactless, it seemed.) Horse your backside la! I tell you my friend's bulldog called Kenny you song bo??? (Nothing against all other Kennys. Just that one.)

Anyway, back to my topic.

No shad, I'm not pissed at you. I'm sure it was a genuine error. I'm just using this picture to illustrate an example.

Look at the reference I got from Nuffnang~

In the past month, I have 98 searches for "sliver ang" and 33 for "sliver ang blog".
Simi....

Got PLENTY more examples, but I'm too lazy to bother digging the pictures out and taking pictures then uploading them here.

Was complaining to some people, and this friend by the name of Adrian told me that like me, people would pronounce his name right, but decide to spell his name as "Adrain". Come to think of it, "Sliver "sounds better than some long kang. I'm sure all the Brians get it as well.

Then another girl, Elise, told me people kept calling her "Elsie". Wah lagi worse. Mine is spell wrong nia, hers people just anyhow put the letters together to remember her name, so got it wrong altogether, spelling AND pronounciation.

One more one more. EVEN more champion than Elise's case. A friend by the name of Azmi. Great cabin crew friend of mine. He would introduce himself in the briefing room, clearly telling people how to pronounce his name. I mean, not in a rude way la. When he introduces yourself, he would go "Hi I'm Ahz mee. Nice to meet you." (Almost all crew I know prints out the crew name list of that particular flight.) He was telling me once, right after introducing himself and sitting down, the inflight supervisor went "Okay Ahmizz, you can play the safety video now". Then onboard, like Elise's case, people would call him Amiz, Azim, Izam, Aziz etc. Most of the time anything but Azmi. What, Scrabble ah? And some of them can still call him by the wrong name AFTER he corrected them. Listen, people, then digest it. Not hear and anyhow acknowledge "Orh paiseh paiseh" then go "By the way Aziz, can you help me fix a Gin and Tonic for the passenger at 56K?"

Honestly, typo errors are fine, and we, being nice and understanding people, will of course forgive that. But repeatedly spelling it wrong just doesn't cut it. Pronouncing it wrong AFTER you've been corrected just makes us NOT want to talk to you anymore. And I'm sure it's not just a matter of being petty or not. Being annoyed once or twice about something is fine, people will get over it after some time, but being annoyed the same issue, and having it constantly repeatedly reminded, just makes us that, DAMN GAM PUA ANNOYED. And yes, because we already sian ji bngua, don't expect us to pay full attention to what you had wanted to tell us.

GetItRightNow&I'llStillBeNice,
That Silver Girl

My Name is NOT Sliver Ang.

On countless occasions I have received FB messages, SMSes, emails, and written letters addressing me by the name of "Sliver". I will understand if it's a one-off typo error. But repeated SMSes going "Hi Sliver....." is just plain annoying. It's not like, a very cheem Ang Mor mia you know? Not "Knox" or "Marcheline" or "Brochovich" or "L'vr" (I never knew how to say that shop's name). Just another normal English word, one which is not only existent in English, but which people spent time in Chemistry lessons on as well. S-I-L-V-E-R. Very hard meh? Must make me sound like "saliva" or something. Or like some sliver of hope crap. Call me "Ag" or "925" I also won't be so du lan.

P/s. Oh by the way, call me Hi Ho Silver and I'll slap your face. I kept hearing crew calling me "Hi Ho" when I was in the airline. Almost EVERY. OTHER. FLIGHT. NEVER heard before prior to flying. Turned out it was the name of this horse who starred in this show back in the 70s or 80s or something. One tactless IFS (think his name was Kenny or K-something la, see I didn't even bother remembering his name after that) even joked that I should speak to my parents about naming me after a horse. Then laughed to himself. By now the whole briefing room can sense that I buay song already, only his antennae spoilt. (Too used to being tactless, it seemed.) Horse your backside la! I tell you my friend's bulldog called Kenny you song bo??? (Nothing against all other Kennys. Just that one.)

Anyway, back to my topic.

No shad, I'm not pissed at you. I'm sure it was a genuine error. I'm just using this picture to illustrate an example.

Look at the reference I got from Nuffnang~

In the past month, I have 98 searches for "sliver ang" and 33 for "sliver ang blog".
Simi....

Got PLENTY more examples, but I'm too lazy to bother digging the pictures out and taking pictures then uploading them here.

Was complaining to some people, and this friend by the name of Adrian told me that like me, people would pronounce his name right, but decide to spell his name as "Adrain". Come to think of it, "Sliver "sounds better than some long kang. I'm sure all the Brians get it as well.

Then another girl, Elise, told me people kept calling her "Elsie". Wah lagi worse. Mine is spell wrong nia, hers people just anyhow put the letters together to remember her name, so got it wrong altogether, spelling AND pronounciation.

One more one more. EVEN more champion than Elise's case. A friend by the name of Azmi. Great cabin crew friend of mine. He would introduce himself in the briefing room, clearly telling people how to pronounce his name. I mean, not in a rude way la. When he introduces yourself, he would go "Hi I'm Ahz mee. Nice to meet you." (Almost all crew I know prints out the crew name list of that particular flight.) He was telling me once, right after introducing himself and sitting down, the inflight supervisor went "Okay Ahmizz, you can play the safety video now". Then onboard, like Elise's case, people would call him Amiz, Azim, Izam, Aziz etc. Most of the time anything but Azmi. What, Scrabble ah? And some of them can still call him by the wrong name AFTER he corrected them. Listen, people, then digest it. Not hear and anyhow acknowledge "Orh paiseh paiseh" then go "By the way Aziz, can you help me fix a Gin and Tonic for the passenger at 56K?"

Honestly, typo errors are fine, and we, being nice and understanding people, will of course forgive that. But repeatedly spelling it wrong just doesn't cut it. Pronouncing it wrong AFTER you've been corrected just makes us NOT want to talk to you anymore. And I'm sure it's not just a matter of being petty or not. Being annoyed once or twice about something is fine, people will get over it after some time, but being annoyed the same issue, and having it constantly repeatedly reminded, just makes us that, DAMN GAM PUA ANNOYED. And yes, because we already sian ji bngua, don't expect us to pay full attention to what you had wanted to tell us.

GetItRightNow&I'llStillBeNice,
That Silver Girl

Of Family, Facebook & Twitter

Super long post but I really need to get this off my chest.

 Huge saga going on this morning in the family. Was being called to get a very angry mother on the other end of the line, telling me that she must sound exactly like how Ah Yi sounded when Ah Yi called her.

If you guys have been following my tweets, you'd know that I had been ranting about the fact that I missed being at home to collect my own laundry before Grandpa did and how he did the ironing and how some of my clothes got destroyed because of that. I didn't want him to iron those delicate clothing, that's why I kept my own dirty laundry in my own room for 2 weeks before having enough load to wash them without wasting water. What I wanted to kick myself in the ass for wasn't the fact that he ironed the clothing, but that I had not been home to collect the dry laundry myself. He would come over to my house every other day to iron all our clothes, and other than underwear, he literally irons EVERYTHING. Even T-shirts, sleepwear, shorts, tights, leggings. These things don't need ironing. I have told him many times these things don't need ironing, because it's really extra work for nothing. He would just ignore what I said and iron them anyway.

These clothes don't need ironing:

• Sleepwear. Er...they get crumpled when I climb into bed....and I wear these to sleep.
• T-shirts. I mean wear at home T-shirts. You know, those shirts which get destroyed (baggy, lost the shape etc) after washing so you don't wear them out anymore? Or old school or army T-shirts.
• Shorts. The wear at home shorts. Really don't have to. I'm not being anal here, but just don't want you to do all these extra work which you don't have to do~!
• Leggings. If you wear leggings, you would know that some of these leggings are stocking material, and you CANNOT iron them. Once ironed (or not done properly), the material becomes shiny (and the iron imprint will end up on the legging).
• Tank tops. Stretchable material kind. Erm, after washing, they DON'T get crumpled anyway~!!! So why iron them?
• Jeans and denim shorts. I don't know how many of you see the need, but I really think jeans shouldn't need to be ironed.
• Clothes which are meant to be crumpled/ruffled. You bought them this way, and honestly, they look nice only when crumpled, so if someone irons them, there goes the folds, and you may even find yourself with a shirt so straight it immediately becomes office wear 1 size larger.
• Some fitted clothes. You know when most people iron, they stick the whole ironing board through the inside of the clothing right? In some clothing this causes it to stretch and become baggy. Thus ending up as home clothes.

I'm not being unappreciative. I am grateful for the fact that most of my clothes are straight and nicely ironed when I need to wear them, but whenever I actually see my granddad ironing clothes which really don't call for ironing, I get really disturbed. I tell him, and he will just say " 不要緊啦，这些烫很快的". He just keeps thinking that I don't want to trouble him. But it's not, I just don't want him to iron those clothes! So if I happen to be home I will go and pick out from the whole stash he collected from the bamboo sticks and bring them into the room to stow away.

Now all you buggers will come and tell me to be grateful that I have a grandfather who does the ironing for me, that's because you don't have to go through that~ If he just irons what we put aside for him to iron, okay, fine, gives him some stuff to be occupied with, everyone's happy. And must I repeat myself? Or do you have attention-deficit disorder? I said I AM grateful. But you see your 70-year-old granny (or even your mother) cleaning up your room for you when you don't want it to be touched, you can tell me you're not pek chek? So old already of course we don't want you to do more work than necessary! For most of us organized-messy people, we have rooms far from being showroom-neat, but ask us where's what, we know. Just don't try to pack our rooms for us. It's the same logic. I don't know how to make it link la, but it's just the same logic la okay?

Back to my tweets. I was ranting on about the clothes and stuff. Note: NOT blaming my grandfather for spoiling the clothes. I have a pink top that lost its elasticity at the back (this top's material does not crumple), 2 tops and a dress with bumps on the shoulders due to improper hanging on the hanger (hanger bumps), a tank top which became longer, and a windbreaker-type trench coat which is now so straight it looks strange.

And who am I blaming? My grandfather? No! Of course not! He's just doing what he has been doing all these while! And he's really good at ironing! Except that how would he know that suddenly 2 bamboos worth of MY clothing was because I don't want them to spoil so I decided to wash them myself? I'm blaming MYSELF for neglecting the collection part. The why-the-fuck-wasn't-I-home that day part. The frustrated-because-I-know-he-meant-well-and-I'm-not-supposed-to-take-it-out-on-him-yet-still-I-need-to-be-grateful-but-upset-anyway part.

Then I got a phone call from my mum in the morning telling me to "Go and delete all the things you posted on Facebook now". Facebook and Twitter is for people to express themselves, correct me if I'm wrong. If you cannot handle emotional expression, don't sign up for these. She was telling me I'm telling people I have a crazy Ah gong. Wah lao, since when??? If she read all the comments generated, they were about them having similar experiences at home. Empathising and understanding the frustration, that they have clothes spoilt by mother-in-laws, mothers, people who helped do their laundry. Did they think I have a crazy Ah gong? Of course not! I'm sure Ah Yi (sorry if I'm assuming) called her and said stuff like "Go and read what your daughter posted. Why she must say father until like that" or the like, creating negative vibes and negative impression so my mum will, after reading, think "Why my daughter like that?". Better still, people who seem to have an interest minding other people's business called her to tell her too! So she later sent me an sms saying "Auntie so-and-so just called me. Delete everything on your Facebook and Twitter before things get worse". What thing gets worse??? Wah lao really making a mountain out of a molehill man~ Incidentally, these people who "reported" to her were not people from my generation and younger. They were people from my mum's generation. In her circle.

And did I mention my Ah Yi knows all the so-called first hand celebrity gossip that will put 黑玫瑰
to shame? Really, she would make a fantastic cabin crew (not work-wise). (Which explains why I left the company.) Honestly, if you want to mind other people's business, you should, like the top financial advisors around, look into your clients' files and see if there're any updates you can help your clients on. Like, how to make our money work even harder for us. If we need to switch equities or funds. Cos I feel my investments are losing money. Positively minding other people's business.

This is not personal, okay, if you think it is.

I've recently been reading a lot of books written by really successful people like Adam Khoo, Stuart Tan, Robert T. Kiyosaki, David J. Schwartz, just to name a few. The one thing common with these people is that they never focus on other people's negativity, but concentrate on positive thinking. They always strive to be better. And I find these thoughts a really fresh breath of air. I share their beliefs. I realised that all around me people were talking about other people behind their backs, sharing gossips with me, telling me the scandalous things people do, and not learning from them, or they complain about things. They hardly talk about how who is doing well and discuss why they are doing well, thus learning from these people. They hardly discuss issues or do problem-solving.

I remembered when I was flying and how I loved it when a team leader sets a target on making all passengers happy and creates a great positive work environment. Those are flights I felt truly motivated to give passengers my all. Give me a flight in which every chance they get, the crew starts gossping, and I feel like nothing is accomplished on the flight. Like what they say "Same shit, different day". I don't think the work is shit, I think the flight work culture can be, should it pan out that way.

I remembered hesitating before accepting my mum and aunt's Facebook requests. Because I always felt that they judge me more than my friends do. And their way of thinking may not approve of the many things we do these days, like sharing certain pictures online. I can't say they are old-fashioned, cos they aren't always so. I think with regards to their friends, they are as open-minded as any of us. BUT just because I am the daughter/niece, they may feel the need to "teach" me and guide my actions. Despite the fact that I am already an adult. They're not wrong, but it's a bit too intrusive on my life and that they shouldn't keep trying to sway my decisions (though they know I'm stubborn as hell).

So I accepted the requests, and look where that brought me. Major arguments telling me I'm ungrateful and that I should mind my words. That I am talking bad about their father. That if I'm not happy at him don't need to tell the whole world, tell her (my mum). Erm...simi daiji??? What did I do now??? Don't misread my messages can? If other people stupid don't understand come and tell you their point of view you stand on their side. Gee, how little that makes me. Guess that shows how biased you are towards me already. Give me a break. Just because I didn't choose the supposed "right guy" in your eyes, you don't have to think that everything else I do is also wrong. I'm tired of that. Anyone would be. You can look at my accomplishments as an artiste, as a blogger, my integrity, whatever else you can think of. Life's more than just relationships, you know?

Which makes me wonder if my initial hesitation in accepting the requests were intuitive. For many of you who know me, I don't like to just add anyone. In fact, I don't. Not even if I've talked to you once or twice. I'll only add you if you're a positive network, or a personal friend, and I have deleted naysayers and one major gossip-monger from my list before. Don't get me wrong, I love my mum. To the extent that I'm actually afraid of her. And when she gets angry, I have no idea how to handle it other than being defensive. Act bigger so you don't get made to feel smaller, I guess that's how I handle it. And in recent months, I've grown to not know how to communicate with my aunt freely as well. I used to be able to, until I feel that I'm being judged and talked behind my back to my mum. That killed it, I suppose. I hope the trust and openness can come back one day. Because these are the dearest people in my life, and it sucks to feel that they are the last person you want to turn to.

And oh, I have never held a grudge against 阿公 for the clothes, if you thought I did. 都讲了，是对事不对人。Don't say he is YOUR father. He is your father as much as mine. He was the only (and very great) father figure I had growing up, and I still think he is. If you thought I'm implying he is a crazy 阿公, I think you're jumping the gun too quickly.

They say birds of a feather flock together. I'm going to start focussing on growing myself, my career and (this is going to sound cliche) my wealth and to flock with the really successful people from now on. Like quality bloggers, for example.


IDon'tMeanHarm,
Silver

Of Family, Facebook & Twitter

Super long post but I really need to get this off my chest.

 Huge saga going on this morning in the family. Was being called to get a very angry mother on the other end of the line, telling me that she must sound exactly like how Ah Yi sounded when Ah Yi called her.

If you guys have been following my tweets, you'd know that I had been ranting about the fact that I missed being at home to collect my own laundry before Grandpa did and how he did the ironing and how some of my clothes got destroyed because of that. I didn't want him to iron those delicate clothing, that's why I kept my own dirty laundry in my own room for 2 weeks before having enough load to wash them without wasting water. What I wanted to kick myself in the ass for wasn't the fact that he ironed the clothing, but that I had not been home to collect the dry laundry myself. He would come over to my house every other day to iron all our clothes, and other than underwear, he literally irons EVERYTHING. Even T-shirts, sleepwear, shorts, tights, leggings. These things don't need ironing. I have told him many times these things don't need ironing, because it's really extra work for nothing. He would just ignore what I said and iron them anyway.

These clothes don't need ironing:

• Sleepwear. Er...they get crumpled when I climb into bed....and I wear these to sleep.
• T-shirts. I mean wear at home T-shirts. You know, those shirts which get destroyed (baggy, lost the shape etc) after washing so you don't wear them out anymore? Or old school or army T-shirts.
• Shorts. The wear at home shorts. Really don't have to. I'm not being anal here, but just don't want you to do all these extra work which you don't have to do~!
• Leggings. If you wear leggings, you would know that some of these leggings are stocking material, and you CANNOT iron them. Once ironed (or not done properly), the material becomes shiny (and the iron imprint will end up on the legging).
• Tank tops. Stretchable material kind. Erm, after washing, they DON'T get crumpled anyway~!!! So why iron them?
• Jeans and denim shorts. I don't know how many of you see the need, but I really think jeans shouldn't need to be ironed.
• Clothes which are meant to be crumpled/ruffled. You bought them this way, and honestly, they look nice only when crumpled, so if someone irons them, there goes the folds, and you may even find yourself with a shirt so straight it immediately becomes office wear 1 size larger.
• Some fitted clothes. You know when most people iron, they stick the whole ironing board through the inside of the clothing right? In some clothing this causes it to stretch and become baggy. Thus ending up as home clothes.

I'm not being unappreciative. I am grateful for the fact that most of my clothes are straight and nicely ironed when I need to wear them, but whenever I actually see my granddad ironing clothes which really don't call for ironing, I get really disturbed. I tell him, and he will just say " 不要緊啦，这些烫很快的". He just keeps thinking that I don't want to trouble him. But it's not, I just don't want him to iron those clothes! So if I happen to be home I will go and pick out from the whole stash he collected from the bamboo sticks and bring them into the room to stow away.

Now all you buggers will come and tell me to be grateful that I have a grandfather who does the ironing for me, that's because you don't have to go through that~ If he just irons what we put aside for him to iron, okay, fine, gives him some stuff to be occupied with, everyone's happy. And must I repeat myself? Or do you have attention-deficit disorder? I said I AM grateful. But you see your 70-year-old granny (or even your mother) cleaning up your room for you when you don't want it to be touched, you can tell me you're not pek chek? So old already of course we don't want you to do more work than necessary! For most of us organized-messy people, we have rooms far from being showroom-neat, but ask us where's what, we know. Just don't try to pack our rooms for us. It's the same logic. I don't know how to make it link la, but it's just the same logic la okay?

Back to my tweets. I was ranting on about the clothes and stuff. Note: NOT blaming my grandfather for spoiling the clothes. I have a pink top that lost its elasticity at the back (this top's material does not crumple), 2 tops and a dress with bumps on the shoulders due to improper hanging on the hanger (hanger bumps), a tank top which became longer, and a windbreaker-type trench coat which is now so straight it looks strange.

And who am I blaming? My grandfather? No! Of course not! He's just doing what he has been doing all these while! And he's really good at ironing! Except that how would he know that suddenly 2 bamboos worth of MY clothing was because I don't want them to spoil so I decided to wash them myself? I'm blaming MYSELF for neglecting the collection part. The why-the-fuck-wasn't-I-home that day part. The frustrated-because-I-know-he-meant-well-and-I'm-not-supposed-to-take-it-out-on-him-yet-still-I-need-to-be-grateful-but-upset-anyway part.

Then I got a phone call from my mum in the morning telling me to "Go and delete all the things you posted on Facebook now". Facebook and Twitter is for people to express themselves, correct me if I'm wrong. If you cannot handle emotional expression, don't sign up for these. She was telling me I'm telling people I have a crazy Ah gong. Wah lao, since when??? If she read all the comments generated, they were about them having similar experiences at home. Empathising and understanding the frustration, that they have clothes spoilt by mother-in-laws, mothers, people who helped do their laundry. Did they think I have a crazy Ah gong? Of course not! I'm sure Ah Yi (sorry if I'm assuming) called her and said stuff like "Go and read what your daughter posted. Why she must say father until like that" or the like, creating negative vibes and negative impression so my mum will, after reading, think "Why my daughter like that?". Better still, people who seem to have an interest minding other people's business called her to tell her too! So she later sent me an sms saying "Auntie so-and-so just called me. Delete everything on your Facebook and Twitter before things get worse". What thing gets worse??? Wah lao really making a mountain out of a molehill man~ Incidentally, these people who "reported" to her were not people from my generation and younger. They were people from my mum's generation. In her circle.

And did I mention my Ah Yi knows all the so-called first hand celebrity gossip that will put 黑玫瑰
to shame? Really, she would make a fantastic cabin crew (not work-wise). (Which explains why I left the company.) Honestly, if you want to mind other people's business, you should, like the top financial advisors around, look into your clients' files and see if there're any updates you can help your clients on. Like, how to make our money work even harder for us. If we need to switch equities or funds. Cos I feel my investments are losing money. Positively minding other people's business.

This is not personal, okay, if you think it is.

I've recently been reading a lot of books written by really successful people like Adam Khoo, Stuart Tan, Robert T. Kiyosaki, David J. Schwartz, just to name a few. The one thing common with these people is that they never focus on other people's negativity, but concentrate on positive thinking. They always strive to be better. And I find these thoughts a really fresh breath of air. I share their beliefs. I realised that all around me people were talking about other people behind their backs, sharing gossips with me, telling me the scandalous things people do, and not learning from them, or they complain about things. They hardly talk about how who is doing well and discuss why they are doing well, thus learning from these people. They hardly discuss issues or do problem-solving.

I remembered when I was flying and how I loved it when a team leader sets a target on making all passengers happy and creates a great positive work environment. Those are flights I felt truly motivated to give passengers my all. Give me a flight in which every chance they get, the crew starts gossping, and I feel like nothing is accomplished on the flight. Like what they say "Same shit, different day". I don't think the work is shit, I think the flight work culture can be, should it pan out that way.

I remembered hesitating before accepting my mum and aunt's Facebook requests. Because I always felt that they judge me more than my friends do. And their way of thinking may not approve of the many things we do these days, like sharing certain pictures online. I can't say they are old-fashioned, cos they aren't always so. I think with regards to their friends, they are as open-minded as any of us. BUT just because I am the daughter/niece, they may feel the need to "teach" me and guide my actions. Despite the fact that I am already an adult. They're not wrong, but it's a bit too intrusive on my life and that they shouldn't keep trying to sway my decisions (though they know I'm stubborn as hell).

So I accepted the requests, and look where that brought me. Major arguments telling me I'm ungrateful and that I should mind my words. That I am talking bad about their father. That if I'm not happy at him don't need to tell the whole world, tell her (my mum). Erm...simi daiji??? What did I do now??? Don't misread my messages can? If other people stupid don't understand come and tell you their point of view you stand on their side. Gee, how little that makes me. Guess that shows how biased you are towards me already. Give me a break. Just because I didn't choose the supposed "right guy" in your eyes, you don't have to think that everything else I do is also wrong. I'm tired of that. Anyone would be. You can look at my accomplishments as an artiste, as a blogger, my integrity, whatever else you can think of. Life's more than just relationships, you know?

Which makes me wonder if my initial hesitation in accepting the requests were intuitive. For many of you who know me, I don't like to just add anyone. In fact, I don't. Not even if I've talked to you once or twice. I'll only add you if you're a positive network, or a personal friend, and I have deleted naysayers and one major gossip-monger from my list before. Don't get me wrong, I love my mum. To the extent that I'm actually afraid of her. And when she gets angry, I have no idea how to handle it other than being defensive. Act bigger so you don't get made to feel smaller, I guess that's how I handle it. And in recent months, I've grown to not know how to communicate with my aunt freely as well. I used to be able to, until I feel that I'm being judged and talked behind my back to my mum. That killed it, I suppose. I hope the trust and openness can come back one day. Because these are the dearest people in my life, and it sucks to feel that they are the last person you want to turn to.

And oh, I have never held a grudge against 阿公 for the clothes, if you thought I did. 都讲了，是对事不对人。Don't say he is YOUR father. He is your father as much as mine. He was the only (and very great) father figure I had growing up, and I still think he is. If you thought I'm implying he is a crazy 阿公, I think you're jumping the gun too quickly.

They say birds of a feather flock together. I'm going to start focussing on growing myself, my career and (this is going to sound cliche) my wealth and to flock with the really successful people from now on. Like quality bloggers, for example.


IDon'tMeanHarm,
Silver

Local Tv Stars vs Bloggers: Market Influence?

This is going to be wordy, but worth thinking about, okay?


Recently, I've come to notice one thing about people in this era. Tech-savvy people like you and me. Who has a Facebook account. Who tweets.

We face the laptop/computer and watch online videos more than we do the TV, we read blogs more than we do novels and magazines. I remember mentioning an up-and-coming actress to a few friends and they were like "Er...who? Sorry I don't watch TV"

Correct me if I'm wrong. I'm like that. Unless I'm watching a show in which I appear in (which will not be found on xinmsn, like UMMI), I hardly ever sit in front of a TV and actually turn it on. I do have a few websites which I frequently visit, quite a few of them blogs. I'm sure those of you who are actually reading this, are like me, and have your favourite bloggers whom you check on every other day.


Which brings me to my next point.

Are bloggers the next celebrities? Sure, exposure isn't as high as, if, say you were featured on the 9pm show on Channel 8. After all, most of us grew up watching 第八播道， or what's known as 八频道 now. The older folks definitely prefer watching watching the local channel 8 than Starhub Cable TVB channels. Because it's something we're so used to, right? But if you're not THE lead actress/actor, will people know you? How many of you can name the short-haired girl in that 泳闯琴关 show who acted as the fantastic swimmer and friend of Felicia Chin and later stole her boyfriend? Do you know her name? That was quite a heavy role. Or how about the Chinese actress in the Unriddle, Ah Ni?

Okay, do you know Xiaxue, Sheylara, Dawn Yang, LadyIronChef (he is one of the top food bloggers in Singapore, mind you), Xuesha, Naomi, Qiuting, Silver (duh!!!! You say no, you better scram now or I will personally come after you with a broom and smack you head with it.), Peggy (6 pegs), Peggy Heng, yada yada....and the list goes on... I've just listed a few of the top bloggers (eh hem, in my eyes, I am good. I will always believe I am good, and can be better.), and if you are a blog reader, you SHOULD ALREADY know them.

Now, supposing Xiaxue does an advert for Essential (which she already does la). You read the ad post, it arouses interest in you, you actually become quite curious and chances are, if it's not outof your budget, you will (or would already have) bought it. In maybe both the pink AND the orange series. True? You read my review on the eyebrow embroidery. If you have sparse eyebrows, because of my review, you will actually consider doing the eyebrow embroidery yourself. No?

Now, if you see Chen Zhi Cai or Ben on Beijing 101's or Yunnam's adverts, will that make you stop and consider, even if you are balding? Or rather, will seeing Chen Zhi Cai or Ben on that ad make you consider? Chances are, if you ever do consider, it's not because of them. Will seeing Jeanette Aw (Sorry dear, I'm just stating an example, I like you personally, I really do!) in the OSIM ad make me want to buy the leg massager? Or because she endorses New Moon abalone, I go buyalso~ No ma~ Unless you're her fan then I bo way gong la! But normal people like you and me. Will we?

I still don't see the link between Dai Yang Tian and the Berocca or whatever supplement he is endorsing. If you get Vincent Weng, well, maybe, or even someone with a good body like Qi YuWu, but DYT? Will you buy JUST BECAUSE DYT endorses it?

I'm starting to think the trend is going to be pro-bloggers (credible ones, of course, with integrity). Tell me what you think?

P/S. Eh mind you hor, NOT anyone who has a blog can call themselves a blogger. It takes time AND effort to be a credible one which people enjoy reading, and which they will keep coming back to.


RisingBlogger,
That Silver Girl

Local Tv Stars vs Bloggers: Market Influence?

This is going to be wordy, but worth thinking about, okay?


Recently, I've come to notice one thing about people in this era. Tech-savvy people like you and me. Who has a Facebook account. Who tweets.

We face the laptop/computer and watch online videos more than we do the TV, we read blogs more than we do novels and magazines. I remember mentioning an up-and-coming actress to a few friends and they were like "Er...who? Sorry I don't watch TV"

Correct me if I'm wrong. I'm like that. Unless I'm watching a show in which I appear in (which will not be found on xinmsn, like UMMI), I hardly ever sit in front of a TV and actually turn it on. I do have a few websites which I frequently visit, quite a few of them blogs. I'm sure those of you who are actually reading this, are like me, and have your favourite bloggers whom you check on every other day.


Which brings me to my next point.

Are bloggers the next celebrities? Sure, exposure isn't as high as, if, say you were featured on the 9pm show on Channel 8. After all, most of us grew up watching 第八播道， or what's known as 八频道 now. The older folks definitely prefer watching watching the local channel 8 than Starhub Cable TVB channels. Because it's something we're so used to, right? But if you're not THE lead actress/actor, will people know you? How many of you can name the short-haired girl in that 泳闯琴关 show who acted as the fantastic swimmer and friend of Felicia Chin and later stole her boyfriend? Do you know her name? That was quite a heavy role. Or how about the Chinese actress in the Unriddle, Ah Ni?

Okay, do you know Xiaxue, Sheylara, Dawn Yang, LadyIronChef (he is one of the top food bloggers in Singapore, mind you), Xuesha, Naomi, Qiuting, Silver (duh!!!! You say no, you better scram now or I will personally come after you with a broom and smack you head with it.), Peggy (6 pegs), Peggy Heng, yada yada....and the list goes on... I've just listed a few of the top bloggers (eh hem, in my eyes, I am good. I will always believe I am good, and can be better.), and if you are a blog reader, you SHOULD ALREADY know them.

Now, supposing Xiaxue does an advert for Essential (which she already does la). You read the ad post, it arouses interest in you, you actually become quite curious and chances are, if it's not outof your budget, you will (or would already have) bought it. In maybe both the pink AND the orange series. True? You read my review on the eyebrow embroidery. If you have sparse eyebrows, because of my review, you will actually consider doing the eyebrow embroidery yourself. No?

Now, if you see Chen Zhi Cai or Ben on Beijing 101's or Yunnam's adverts, will that make you stop and consider, even if you are balding? Or rather, will seeing Chen Zhi Cai or Ben on that ad make you consider? Chances are, if you ever do consider, it's not because of them. Will seeing Jeanette Aw (Sorry dear, I'm just stating an example, I like you personally, I really do!) in the OSIM ad make me want to buy the leg massager? Or because she endorses New Moon abalone, I go buyalso~ No ma~ Unless you're her fan then I bo way gong la! But normal people like you and me. Will we?

I still don't see the link between Dai Yang Tian and the Berocca or whatever supplement he is endorsing. If you get Vincent Weng, well, maybe, or even someone with a good body like Qi YuWu, but DYT? Will you buy JUST BECAUSE DYT endorses it?

I'm starting to think the trend is going to be pro-bloggers (credible ones, of course, with integrity). Tell me what you think?

P/S. Eh mind you hor, NOT anyone who has a blog can call themselves a blogger. It takes time AND effort to be a credible one which people enjoy reading, and which they will keep coming back to.


RisingBlogger,
That Silver Girl

On Board the YOG Bus!!!

The videos took forever to load and I've been trying them for 4 hours. -.-" Unsucceessful. Only 1 up. Will try to fix that asap. Meanwhile, just bear with what I have first k? Or just read my Starblog post first, add a comment or 2 about what you think! Just click the Starblog post at the sidebar. =D


This is one post with a shitload of photos so be prepared for a visual treat as I (going to sound like some tour guide) take you on my Journey of the Youth Olympic Flame, onboard the YOG Coca-Cola bus!!!

P/s. Next time, I shall set my camera picture size to VGA instead of 3M or 5M. It's a pain to manually resize each and every picture I need to post on Paint...grrrrr~


Here goes~

Warning: This may look like a Picasa/Flickr album~ Too many pics!

 

 This is the bus I will be boarding! I have no idea what to expect. What the hell are we going to do on the bus ah? I know, I'm such a clueless blogger. 被 taken for a ride 都不懂要 ride 去哪里，做什么...

WAH!!!! Downstairs so chaotic ah!!!! Got fierce coordinators shouting at people somemore...betta run upstairs and stay there....

All that music on the Hippo bus was being generated by this! It runs on petrol leh! Halfway through the petrol emptied, and the music stopped~ Someone got it fixed of course~ By pumping petrol!

I later found out people would be running with the Youth Olympic Flame and passing them on, and the buses would be following them on the journey of the Youth Olympic Flame!!!! And we were going to cheer them on and spread the cheer around!!!

*excited~!*
I love my red Coke shirt leh! Cos it's made from 100% recycled Coke bottles!!! Amazing right??? It feels EXACTLY like a cotton shirt lor! Eco-friendly, and innovative!!! I like!!!!

Students on the bus behind ours! Theirs is the Samsung bus~

The weather was humid that day, and I was thankful there were no sun. And Mint ACTUALLY brought a fan~~~~

Zouk on a bus~ These kids were DANCING man!!!!

"Open up, open up some happiness~~~Open up, open up some happy-ness~~"

We sure got some curious stares...

The people outside Tangs looked absolutely blur~ That girl in pink was like going "What's going on???"

Further down the road, people were more enthu~ There were people cheering and waving to us~

Check out the video to see the crowd!

If you're wondering what that annoying horn in the background was, it came from this. Shaped like a Coke bottle, it's actually a hornfor us to blow to, erm, apparently get more attention and MAKE SOME NOISE!!!!!

Samsung. Proud sponsor of YOG! 

I'm a Samsung fan!!! Have always been since my very first Samsung phone 5 years ago. Have NEVER looked back since. And I'm still upset I lost my Samsung Jet.......................yet to replace one...sigh~

Until today, I never knew what OFS stood for. Overseas Family School. =)

And Singtel of course didn't lose out in giving their support~ If only their customer service staff were this friendly to their customers. Plenty of bad feedback from many different friends. =(

MORE Singtel support.

Waving and screaming "HI!!!!" to people was very tiring, but really fun and satisfying to do, especially when people wave back at you! 

Mint saw a couple of idiots giving us the middle finger when the YOG buses went past them. Like, THE MIDDLE FINGER!!! When we were being nice and spreading cheer and smiling and waving to them!!! Rude arses. I pray these people find meaning in their sad lives.

This was what the buses looked like as they went pass crowds! Theirs is the blue Samsung bus, ours the red Coca-Cola bus!

p/s. All these guys on the buses were students from NYP who VOLUNTEERED to come and help with this event! Nice work guys!!!

With 妹 Mint~

Some of the cool kids I met on the YOG bus!

AHAHAHAHAHHAA!!!!!! Nice try guys. Very f~u~n~n~y......

You do know you're going to get prank calls from boliao people once I took your picture right? No? NO??? Oops.

I just HAD to add on to the noise!!!! WAHAHAHAHAH~~~~ Makes me feel young leh!

YOG ROCKS!!!! 

And SO DO MY SHIRT!!!

And SO DOES SILVER ANG GONG GONG!!!! WeeEEEeeEEee~~~~

OpenUpOpenUpSomeHappiness~~~,
*~Silver~*

On Board the YOG Bus!!!

The videos took forever to load and I've been trying them for 4 hours. -.-" Unsucceessful. Only 1 up. Will try to fix that asap. Meanwhile, just bear with what I have first k? Or just read my Starblog post first, add a comment or 2 about what you think! Just click the Starblog post at the sidebar. =D


This is one post with a shitload of photos so be prepared for a visual treat as I (going to sound like some tour guide) take you on my Journey of the Youth Olympic Flame, onboard the YOG Coca-Cola bus!!!

P/s. Next time, I shall set my camera picture size to VGA instead of 3M or 5M. It's a pain to manually resize each and every picture I need to post on Paint...grrrrr~


Here goes~

Warning: This may look like a Picasa/Flickr album~ Too many pics!

 

 This is the bus I will be boarding! I have no idea what to expect. What the hell are we going to do on the bus ah? I know, I'm such a clueless blogger. 被 taken for a ride 都不懂要 ride 去哪里，做什么...

WAH!!!! Downstairs so chaotic ah!!!! Got fierce coordinators shouting at people somemore...betta run upstairs and stay there....

All that music on the Hippo bus was being generated by this! It runs on petrol leh! Halfway through the petrol emptied, and the music stopped~ Someone got it fixed of course~ By pumping petrol!

I later found out people would be running with the Youth Olympic Flame and passing them on, and the buses would be following them on the journey of the Youth Olympic Flame!!!! And we were going to cheer them on and spread the cheer around!!!

*excited~!*
I love my red Coke shirt leh! Cos it's made from 100% recycled Coke bottles!!! Amazing right??? It feels EXACTLY like a cotton shirt lor! Eco-friendly, and innovative!!! I like!!!!

Students on the bus behind ours! Theirs is the Samsung bus~

The weather was humid that day, and I was thankful there were no sun. And Mint ACTUALLY brought a fan~~~~

Zouk on a bus~ These kids were DANCING man!!!!

"Open up, open up some happiness~~~Open up, open up some happy-ness~~"

We sure got some curious stares...

The people outside Tangs looked absolutely blur~ That girl in pink was like going "What's going on???"

Further down the road, people were more enthu~ There were people cheering and waving to us~

Check out the video to see the crowd!

If you're wondering what that annoying horn in the background was, it came from this. Shaped like a Coke bottle, it's actually a hornfor us to blow to, erm, apparently get more attention and MAKE SOME NOISE!!!!!

Samsung. Proud sponsor of YOG! 

I'm a Samsung fan!!! Have always been since my very first Samsung phone 5 years ago. Have NEVER looked back since. And I'm still upset I lost my Samsung Jet.......................yet to replace one...sigh~

Until today, I never knew what OFS stood for. Overseas Family School. =)

And Singtel of course didn't lose out in giving their support~ If only their customer service staff were this friendly to their customers. Plenty of bad feedback from many different friends. =(

MORE Singtel support.

Waving and screaming "HI!!!!" to people was very tiring, but really fun and satisfying to do, especially when people wave back at you! 

Mint saw a couple of idiots giving us the middle finger when the YOG buses went past them. Like, THE MIDDLE FINGER!!! When we were being nice and spreading cheer and smiling and waving to them!!! Rude arses. I pray these people find meaning in their sad lives.

This was what the buses looked like as they went pass crowds! Theirs is the blue Samsung bus, ours the red Coca-Cola bus!

p/s. All these guys on the buses were students from NYP who VOLUNTEERED to come and help with this event! Nice work guys!!!

With 妹 Mint~

Some of the cool kids I met on the YOG bus!

AHAHAHAHAHHAA!!!!!! Nice try guys. Very f~u~n~n~y......

You do know you're going to get prank calls from boliao people once I took your picture right? No? NO??? Oops.

I just HAD to add on to the noise!!!! WAHAHAHAHAH~~~~ Makes me feel young leh!

YOG ROCKS!!!! 

And SO DO MY SHIRT!!!

And SO DOES SILVER ANG GONG GONG!!!! WeeEEEeeEEee~~~~

OpenUpOpenUpSomeHappiness~~~,
*~Silver~*